I was on my way home, to Goa, from Surathkal. Classes had been moved to make way for a big weekend and like other colleagues, I was off to cool my heels at home. But little did I know of the adventure that lay ahead of me. 

I was traveling in deluxe bus, with my dusty backpack and laptop, pushing myself back onto a reclining seat with some bearded yokel in the seat beside me. The bus moved on, jumping up and down along the degraded highway. 

And then, it happened. 

Somewhere ahead of the village of Byndoor, the bus stopped. Or rather as we realized a couple of minutes later, was made to stop. Half a dozen of these local gundas got into the bus with daggers and one of them with a gun and screamed, “This is a hijack!” And then there were more screams. This time from the passengers. “Hoo haa mast maal bhajan bhatkal” …well, that’s what I think they sounded like. But I could see plenty of aunties and kids shocked and terror streaming through their minds. “There won’t be too much of talk now”, they said, “we will contact your government in the morning, place our demands, and get what we want. Just pray they listen to us; else we’ll have to start killing you all, one by one.” And he gave a snorted laugh and spat. The mendren! 

Then the goons pushed us out of the bus and moved us to a small construction site near to where the bus has stopped. It was a humid night and we were sweating more than ever now. One rascal even pushed me and told me to move faster. He saw but neglected the fact that I was clinging onto my laptop case. Finally having reached there, they pushed some of us into this small temporarily built hut for the construction workers. I wonder why that house was empty though. In fact the whole site was deserted. They told us to wait there. I could hear kids crying. The hot Manipal girls from the bus were whispering amongst themselves. And I lay on the floor of the hut, with few others including the yokel who was my seatmate. I spat onto the floor. “WTF is this! We are hijacked! I wish this place had wireless or something. We could use the laptop and contact someone for help.” The eyes of the yokel lit up. He started digging into his khaadi trousers and pulled it out. 

The Tata Indicom Plug 2 Surf Pen drive!

Tata Indicom Plug 2 Surf Pen Drive

Yes. Using this you can connect to the internet from anywhere. It’s a pen drive which behaves as a modem and sets up a connection for you using the Tata Indicom network.

We might just be saved, I thought and started smiling. Mr. Baaliga sitting beside me smiled too. Though he didn’t understand what the technology could do, he understood that good was happening. And I booted into Windows and tried to use it. And that is when we realized that it wouldn’t work. For it to work, we need to have the Tata indicom software set up on the computer previously and obviously this yokel did not carry the installation CD with him.

Tata Indicom Plug 2 Surf kit

Windows didn’t detect the drive. It was a waste. Smiles faded away. I looked to my right. And I saw a toy penguin smiling at me. And I looked away. And then I looked at it. And then at my comp. Linux! 

I booted my comp again, this time into Linux. And I couldn’t remember the password. After numerous attempts at regularly used passwords, I got it! And we did it again. We tried connecting the Tata Indicom drive and the yokel typed a few commands over the terminal. And then so did I. Thanks to the subject of UNIX taught in college. And then it worked. We had setup a connection. Linux didn’t need any software setup to recognize the drive. It didn’t need any help. It just worked. 

Well, from there we managed to contact the police. And other intelligence agencies as well. And they managed to come there quicker than the goons expected. The goons weren’t prepared. They thought they would call the police at sunrise and then be ready. But they were caught off guard. The goons were taken away, and our bus was on its way to Goa again. The Manipal girls kept smiling at me. The yokel and I shook our hands in friendship. And the bus moved on. 

Thanks to Linux. It works. There are no two ways about it.

Think Linux

This does not mean you should switch from pirated windows. That’s free software too. But have Linux on your comp so you can use it for emergencies like this.

Cheers.

Well, there comes a time in a blogger’s life where he posts text details of a particular funny chat he’s had and I’m sure you must have read one of them.  Some guys even post chats where they assumed the identity of a hot young girl from wonderland and fooled some idiot into chatting. Well, so even i wanted to post some chat, so here is my 1st chat-details-post. 

Chat: with Abhijeet. 20/09/2008

for those who dont know, FuFy is Fcuked up Final years. Final block ground floor guys, who play carrom till 5 am, then go to Tadambail for puri bhaaji, come back, sleep, and get up only in the afternoon. Chinmaya Holla is the convenor of FuFy and the reason why people became FuFy. Anyway, read on.

Yatin Status: Fat people are harder to kidnap.
Abhi Status: FuFY

Abhijeet:  this meant for nd?? :D

Sent at 9:41 PM on Saturday

Yatin:        :P   im also getting fat
Abhijeet:   u r halfway there man
                    nd is already there  :D
Yatin:         monk too :)
Abhijeet:   did dilip sleep off by any chance??
Yatin:         yeah
Abhijeet:    when i called there was no reply
Yatin:         he’s sleeping
                    i saw thru window
Abhijeet:    he s fucked man
Yatin:          no dude
                     he slept now
Abhijeet:    he ll wake up at 4
Yatin:          will get up at 9 tom
                     he sleeps 12 hours rem
Abhijeet:     yeah that might happen :)
Yatin:          yeah
                     he’l get up for breakfast in mess
                     im telling u
                     vl burn holla
                     no need to burn the carrom board and anything
                     today holla isnt ther
                     and nobody has even come to his room
Abhijeet:     yeah i think so
                     lol..actually true man
                    

Yatin:          why waste the board
                     or the room

Abhijeet:     as soon as he comes tom

                     lets put some kersosene on him
Yatin:          nice nice
Abhijeet:     and light him on fire!!
Yatin:          how about we gpl him 1st
Abhijeet:     (evil laugh)
                     hohahaa
Yatin:          its muhahahahha
Abhijeet:     yeah that ll do just fine
                     ok muhahahahha
                     so its gpl,then burn him
                     agenda set for tom
Yatin:          yes
                     done
Abhijeet:     cool..u get the kerosene
                     i ll get the matchtick
Yatin:          hair oil burns?
Abhijeet:     lol..like crazy
                     that ll do as well
Yatin:          nice…
                     then after the sacrifice
                     our cycles will be fine
Abhijeet:     yes..we shall be back to NORMAL
Yatin:          yes
Abhijeet:     and our status pics can be our faces again
Yatin:          and if u think about it
                     burning sum1
                     coz of this
                     does actually indicate we’re fucked up
                     so if we want
                     we can still call ouselves fufy
Abhijeet:     yes sir,we ll still be fufy
                     and monk shall be our leader
                     not holla
Yatin:           yes
Abhijeet:     then we can hatch a plan to burn monk as well
                     and so on..
Yatin:           naice
Abhijeet:     like the joker in dark knight
Yatin:          yes yes
                     finally u will be con
                     and il be joint con
                     till i burn u off as well
Abhijeet:     and we shall rule FUFY
Yatin:          nice
                     maybe we can allow kaya then
Abhijeet:     sure,we ll see who burns whom
Yatin:          if we really need members
                     we can take kaya and burn him
Abhijeet:     yeah,shortage of members :D
Yatin:           if he hasnt killed hiumself by then

Abhijeet:     yeah,he ll be there only to get burnt
Yatin:          then vl have a fest
                     burn.burn again. FUFYineer
Abhijeet:     nice dude..when we are jobless,we are really creative!!
                      :)
Yatin:          yes!
                     but lets at least gpl holla tom
Abhijeet:     yeah lets do that
                      kick his ass real bad
Yatin:           yeah
                      vl save him to be burnt some other day
Abhijeet:     lol ok

Sent at 10:02 PM on Saturday

Mazaharul Sheikh had come to address the people of Sudan residing in the sandy deserts of Rajasthan. During his discourse he told the people about the advantages that would come to the Arabs if his party won. But then the government passed a rule that Rajasthan was part of India so they couldn’t vote for Sudan. So then Sheikh went back.

Few months later, the sheikh was addressing the people of Sudan in the sandy deserts of Sudan. He told them the same advantages. He spoke about religion as well. He put forth, “Al Jabal, Al hakdar. Yes my dear people, this is the truth. Jabal is the only Lord and the possessor of all. Jabal is the leader, we are his horses. He is the messiah of the Arabs.” Within a year, this phrase revolutionized the Arab people of Sudan. Egypt, Zaire, Morocco, Iran and Saudi Arabia. It affected west of Yemen too.

The Shiekh’s party became bigger and he named it the Jabal forward block. Ali Haider, a rich Arab said that these were truly the words of the Lord and built a silver dome shaped monument in its name. The Sheikh decided to revolutionize the Americas with this phrase. He sent 23 followers of the Jabal forward block to USA on a ship. Mr. Roald Smith, the then USA state affairs minster arrested the followers and kept them hungry for days. After 50 days they were sent to Mexico and shot.

He gave the reason that religion should not interfere with politics. The people of the middle east who regarded this phrase as the highest political and religious attorney, were enraged. Mr. Smith launched a bomb on the silver monument where Mazaharul Sheikh and many other members of the Jabal forward block got killed and the monument got destroyed.

Rashid Umar, a young Arab bachelor of 25, formed the Arab league and started spreading the phrase of ‘Al Jabal, Al Hakdar’ far and wide. The Arab league was filled with young and enthusiastic Arabs. The UAE cricket team which played cricket 2 months a year also served as members during the rest of the year. The Arab league shipped bombs to USA, one which blasted off the Boston harbor. This enraged Smith and let out war. The Arab league had the support of most of the countries in the Middle East but USA was militarily stronger and they bought a lot of cheap labor from Mexico. USA blasted 26 oil drilling platform of the Middle east and blasted bombs in Baghdad, Yemen, Kuwait and Sudan which caused severe damages.

Rashid Umar called Roald Smith for a meeting in Indonesia. On the same day, a few followers of the Jabal forward block blasted 2 bombs. One on Florida in USA which didn’t cause much damage and one on Mexico which killed over a thousand people and farm animals. The followers were caught and sent to USA upon Smith’s request. There they were beaten up badly, electrically tortured and then shot and fed to vultures. This torture was introduced by Roald Smith and he called it the ‘Unforgivable torture Programme’. The Arabs adopted it and named it the ‘Jallad ali musrate Jabal’ meaning Jabal’s torture done at the hands of Jallads. In the next 4 years, a lot of violence spread across the middle east. Anti Jabal followers were caught and tortured. In Kazakhstan, the Raja Ravikumar called Rashid alone to his court and unexpectedly got him arrested. There, the king tortured him telling him to withdraw the Arab league to stop the violence. When Umar disagreed, he was badly tortured. Everyday he was beaten up with sticks and iron rods. He was barely given any food. He was subjected to electrical torture and mental puncture. Rough dogs were let at him. After 17 days, his shirt was torn off and his body was red with marks. He was kept in the mental hospital ward with Russian immigrants who spoke all day. When he tried to escape, he was caught and put in a Colosseum with a mad bull. After 1 month, his eyes were punctured and taken out. At last after 1 month and 18 days of brutal and menacing torture, he died. He was fed to vultures and stray animals. His death weakened the Arab League.

Roald Smith and Ravikumar joined forces and dissolved the Arab League. Within 6 years of the dissolution of the Arab league, the phrase ‘Al Jabal, Al Hakdar’ collapsed. The people were enlightened and put on the path of other religions.

What do in Goa on a short trip with friends? What to see? What to do? And how to get there from NITK Surathkal?

Well, on being asked these questions time to time, I have decided to document it, and put it up here, on my blog. So here’s what I would tell you if you had to ask me these or other related questions. And you can use the info relevant to your doubts.

Age old question: Where to stay? North Goa or South Goa?
=> Well, there’s not much of a doubt actually. Go straight to north Goa. It doesn’t take one more than a week in Goa to realize that’s where the fun is. You are basically comparing Panjim and Madgaon, and Panjim is a better place to hang out. Also south Goa has beaches, nothing more special than the north Goan beaches and a few antique heritage sites.

North Goa has Panjim, which is better place to stay; also most of the top beaches of Goa are along the north coast, namely Calangute, baga, anjuna, etc. So go north. Many guys have gone south and then told me they regretted it.

Where to stay? Panjim or Calangute?
=> Stay in Panjim: 
Pros:    1. Better food options, specially for veggies.
            2. Cheaper accommodation options available during off season

Cons:   1. No night life whatsoever.
            2. Just one beach in Panjim city.

=> Stay in Calangute:
Pros:    1. Plenty of options for late evening activities (clubs, shows, galleries, etc)
            2. Most popular beaches located close by.

Cons:   1. No great food options. Mostly goan food. Problem for veggies.
            2. Accommodation can get expensive during season (eg: December) 

My say: If you have transport arranged for, stay in Panjim. Calangute is just 15 kms away. You can always drive back. If you’re walking your way around, stay in Calangute.

Transport?
Public transport in the form of buses and autos exists. But the bus system isn’t as good as Mangalore, there aren’t a lot of buses going into the inner parts of the city. Autos are out to loot you, don’t expect them to stick to the meter.  

If you have a driving license, you could rent bikes, scooters or even a car. Car and bike rental shops available, or ask at whichever hotel you stay. They will be able to provide it to you right there.

What to check out?
In Panjim, check out Dona Paula and go to Miramar beach. You could visit Panjim church if interested. Something interesting to do would be to go for the Evening Cruise which is available near the bus stand, below Mandovi Bridge. There are quite a few cruises available, which take you for a spin along the banks of the Mandovi River, and you can admire the city as you do that. There’s music and other fun along with it too. It’s not as expensive as it is perceived to be, tickets should be less than Rs. 200 for sure. 

You could also catch a movie at inox in Panjim, or go for Go-karting in Verna, but if you’re from a metro or something, maybe you wont like to do that.

Try boating at Mayem lake. Approx 20 kms from Panjim, if you use a ferry boat.

Churches: Check out the 2 churches located on either side of the road at Old Goa. One of these churches is the one which houses the preserved body of St. Francis Xavier. Nearby is St. Augustine’s cathedral, it’s the ruins of a large cathedral from Portugese times. It’s a heritage site now. The main wall of the ruin makes most people say wow. There are a lot other churches you could visit, ask the hotel guys about it or google it.

Temples: Plenty of big temples located specially in South Goa, google for “temples in Goa” for more details. 

Beaches: Calangute, Baga, Anjuna, Vagator, Miramar if you’re in Panjim, Colva if you’re in Madgaon, Palolem etc. it’s a state with 105 km stretch, and it’s full of beaches. These are just among the popular ones. 

Visit Fort Aguada at Calangute. It’s popular for the fort, the jail and the lighthouse. The view from the lighthouse is a personal favorite of mine.

Nude Beaches: Now this is the question I have been asked most number of times. Since 1^st year of engineering! Well, its obvious nude beaches do not develop coz of the locals or Indian tourists, its coz of the foreigners. So you have to be in Goa, in the season when they are. But beaches where you’ll find nudity in high probability are Arambol, Betalbatim and Assolna. (I have personally not been there). Nudity is also found on popular beaches like Calangute during season time. 

Ask your hotel for info on boats with transparent floor to view coral reefs and about paragliding / parasailing. These are value for money in the off season or mid season times. So are other water sports. 

If you are really more interested in making the most out of your day at Goa by sightseeing, rather than chilling out, visit the tourism office near Panjim bus stand and inquire about their 1 day Goa sightseeing packages. It could be 1 day north Goa or south Goa, or the whole state itself. Again, it’s a government venture, so it won’t be too expensive and variable. 

Clubbing: Mambos and Tito’s are the most popular clubs in Goa. And there are plenty more in the same area. 

How to go to Goa from NITK Surathkal?

=>        Passenger train from Mangalore to Madgaon at 7.30 am (Surathkal station)
            Matsyagandha express from Mangalore to Mumbai at around 1:30 pm at Surathkal. It was at 3:30pm in the recent past. Do check before you decide.
            Netravati express at 12:45am or so from Surathkal station. Drops you off early morning at Madgaon.
My Say: Take the morning passenger train. Though you’ll have to wake up early and make it to the station, the train is comfortable and the fare is just 50 bucks. You can’t get better than that. 

Don’t like train? Book a bus from reddy’s. Bus options: Ganesh, Paulo, KSRTC, Mahabaleshwar. Take Ganesh. Insist on Ganesh unless there is absolutely no option. These buses are clean and reliable. Paulo has had incidents you don’t wanna hear about. 

Well, I may have forgotten about certain issues. So if you do need to know, leave a comment and I’ll reply. There are quite a few websites which provide details, so check them out as well. This is just a native’s perspective. The above info is not googled or obtained from other sources, it’s just what I’d tell you if you asked me.

So if you do come to Goa, Have fun. That’s just the way of life here.

In an age of remixes, disastrous lyrics, and more focus on visual content than literature, here’s a pleasnt change.

Most of you’ll must have heard Rabbi Shergill’s 1st album track, “Bulla ki jaana”. It was a big hit and now he’s back with his second album after a long time and it has been totally worth the wait.

I came across one of the tracks, “Bilqis: Jinhe naaz hai hind par” and after watching the video, this song really deserves a tribute.

Rabbi tells the story of 4 unsung heroes of India in a remarkable manner that makes one think and moves you to tears.  When heard for the 1st time, the lyrics of the song are hard to catch, but when understood, you’ll really love the song.

The icing on the cake is the strumming of the National Anthem tune between the verses, which serves as the perfect melody between the thought provoking verses.

So here’s the lyrics: 

Bilqis: Jinhe naaz hai hind par
-RABBI

Mera naam Bilqis Yakub Rasool
Mujhse hui bas ek hi bhool
Ki jab dhhundhhte thhe vo Ram ko
To maen khadi thhi, rah mein

Pehle ek ne puchha na mujhe kuchh pata thha
Dujey ko bhi mera yehi javab thha
Fir itno ne puchha ki mera ab saval hai ki

Jinhe naaz hai hind par vo kahan the
Jinhe naaz hai vo kahan hain

Mera naam Shriman Satyendra Dubey
Jo kehna thha vo keh chukey
Ab padhey hain rah mein
Dil mein liye ek goli

Bas itna kasoor ki hamne likha thaa
Vo sach jo har kisi ki zuban thaa
Par sach yahan ho jatey hain zehreelay

Jinhe naaz hai hind par vo kahan the
Jinhe naaz hai vo kahan hain

Mujhe kehte hain anna Manjunath
Maine dekhi bhatakti ek laash
Zamir ki beech sarhak Lakhimpur Kherhi

Adarsh phasa jahan naaron mein
Aur chor bharey darbaron mein
Vahan maut akhlaq ki hai ik khabar baasi

Jinhe naaz hai hind par vo kahan the
Jinhe naaz hai vo kahan hain

Mazha nau aahe Navleen Kumar
Unnees june unnees bar
Unnees unnees unnees unnees
Unnees baar

Unnees unnees unnees unnees
Unnees unnees unnees unnees
Unnees unnees unnees unnees
Unnees baar

Looto dehaat kholo bazaar
Nallasopara aur Virar
Chheeno zameen hamse humhe
Bhejo pataal

Jinhe naaz hai hind par vo kahan the
Jinhe naaz hai vo kahan hain

The 1st martyr Rabbi tells about is Bilqis Bano.
Bilkis Bano is one of the victims of the riots which followed the Godhra train massacre. On March 3 (or February 28), 2002, she was gangraped in Dahod district of Gujarat when she was pregnant. She also lost 14 relatives including her 3-year-old child, mother and 2 sisters. She is the sole witness to this incident. The case was handled by the CBI, and was transferred to Mumbai court on the orders of the Supreme Court. 20 people have been accused in the case.

Then Rabbi speaks of Satyendra Dubey.
Satyendra Kumar Dubey (1973 – 2003) was project director at the National Highways Authority of India (NHAI). He was assassinated in Gaya, Bihar for fighting corruption in the Golden Quadrilateral highway construction project.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Satyendra_Dubey

Then,
Shanmugam Manjunath (1978 Kolar-2005) was a marketing manager for the Indian Oil Corporation (IOC) who was murdered for sealing a corrupt petrol station in UP. Who later became a rallying cry for IIM, IIT and other institutes students. While working for the Indian Oil Corporation (IOC) in Lucknow, he had ordered two petrol pumps at Lakhimpur Kheri sealed for selling adulterated fuel for three months. When the pump started operating again a month later, Manjunath decided to conduct a surprise raid around November 19, 2005.

Having not heard from his son for three days, at around 9 that night, his father, M Shanmughan, had sent an SMS: “How are you?”. There was no reply because that very night, during his inspection, Manjunath had been shot dead. His body, riddled with at least six bullets, was found in the backseat of his own car, which was being driven by two employees of the petrol pump. Both were arrested and the main accused, pump-owner Pawan Kumar (‘Monu’) Mittal, was held on November 23 along with seven others.

And the 4th,
Ms. Navleen Kumar, who worked for the land rights of adivasis/tribals in Nallasopara, outskirts of Mumbai was stabbed to death on the terrace of her flat. She had been fighting against “builders and land mafia” who had been usurping tribal land by terror, force and fraud over the last 20-25 years, to restore the land rights to the tribals – the original owners. On the 19th of June 2002, she was stabbed 19 times.

The video is brilliant and can be viewed at:
http://in.youtube.com/watch?v=_FunznAFCQI 

God bless Rabbi for this amazing masterpiece. A fervent hope that we remember the trails and the tribulations undergone, while celebrating the character and strength that each one of our fellow Indians mentioned in this song displayed.

Women are most attracted to these six things in men:

1) Means (Wealth, possessions, gifts to them or providing for them)
2) Power (Influence, Leadership, provide safety)
3) Fame
4) Looks (Including height)
5) Exclusivity (Royalty, already married, hard to get)
6) Personality (Humor, creativity, romance, intelligence, mystique etc.)

Now, numbers one through five are largely out of your immediate control. If you’re not rich, you’re probably not going to get rich this week. If you’re not famous or tall, you’re probably not going to be in a hit movie or grow 6 inches in the next 24 hours.

So that leaves us with number six, PERSONALITY.

The good news is that your personality is your greatest asset in the success-with-women game. Fortunately, it’s the one thing you can change. And it’s the one thing that can overcome all of the rest. After you’ve done what you can to look your best, etc. you have to develop a personality that’s absolutely magnetic.

The one quality that attracts women the most (and keeps them attracted) is not something that they can initially ‘look’ for. It’s the way they FEEL when they are with you or thinking of you. In the end, if you don’t have wealth, power, fame, or looks you’re going to have to use your personality to make them feel good. In the end, your personality is the most powerful weapon you have.

Most often a man thinks that a woman doesn’t like him because of the other 5 reasons. You’ll often hear a guy cribbing, “I guess she thinks I don’t look so good” or “She just wants a rich guy”. Well, it’s not quite so. That’s just a convenient way of convincing oneself for not being good enough to impress the girl you wanted to.

So as I said before, it’s really your personality which matters the most. The quality which makes your lady feel good about you. The introduction of this post tells about the six things that attract women, but these don’t necessarily keep your lady attracted to you. It’s got to be something about you that makes her feel good, and if you really care, that’s what you must work on rather than bothering about the other reasons.

Cheers.

Now here is another friend of mine. Goutham DL. Better know as Maga at NITK. Now let me tell you all, a story about Maga.

In his 1st year at  NITK, maga went for a jive workshop.  No, he didn’t have the balls to ask the girl, he was set up by another girl from his class. Now maga liked the workshop a lot, he learnt to jive. And then maga came to the room and told us how good he is at jive. So then we, his roomies, Vikram and me, were curios, so maga even gave us a demo. Vikram even offered to serve as partner. So here is the video of Maga doing the jive…

Wot e dancer! Wot e performance!

Funnily, people think how can maga be doing this? But i don’t know why. He used to do these kinda things all the time at the room.

Now here is my friend Chinmaya Holla. Not known to many is his great singing talent. So here is holla singing khwaja mere khwaja from the movie Jodha Akbar. For those of you who cant view the video coz of plugins, sad.
For those who have to wait to watch it, please do so. Its good.

Ah! I feel like presenting a more visual post today than always. So I’ll do something I’ve not done before. Use pictures.

So let’s put this under Pranks. Though it’s not about any prank, this itself could serve as one.
So I just have a main course of pictures to show and then one for dessert.
So lets start off.

(1) This is one of my best friends, Makaranth. He is asleep. He is like a brother to me.

Maku 1

 

(2) (notice the left hand) Well, Makaranth’s skin texture is very good. You can notice it better in this photo.

Maku 2

(3) Check out the stripes pattern on the shorts in this one. I like it.

Maku 3

4) This is another one of Makarand. Wearing bright orange shorts. Plus I like the forearm muscles in this one.

Maku 4

Well that’s about it of Makaranth in this one. As I promised, a dessert photo to end with.

 

 

This is the butt of an elephant I caught on camera in Goa. He’s going into a no-entry road.

Elephant

Have a nice day

Its time for another paper on PhD on love. Been quite some time since there was a post on this topic. So let’s discuss a topic which can be really helpful to some and really interesting to others.

How to impress women.

So, this is one of the 1^st steps in the whole process and often the most difficult for most guys. The reason it’s so difficult and most guys cant figure out the right way to do it is coz the right method is too obvious. Yes, it is. And most guys never figure that out.

Let me explain. I personally think that many guys feel a very powerful desire to IMPRESS women. If you watch the way a guy behaves when he’s talking to a girl he’s just met or a woman that he’s on a first date with, you can SEE IT. Maybe you’ve been there yourself. The feeling that you need to impress a woman usually comes along with another feeling: DON’T SCREW THIS UP.

Some of the signs that a guy is feeling the need to “impress” the lady that he’s talking to are:

1) He tries to only say “cool” things, or things that will “impress” the lady.

2) He acts nervous during the conversation, sometimes coming across as “formal”.

3) He tries to figure out what the woman wants to hear.

4) If he says something that the woman doesn’t like, he “back-pedals” and tries to change what he said to suit the woman.

5) He doesn’t say anything “risky”, doesn’t tease the woman, and doesn’t do anything to upset her.

…in other words, when a guy is talking to a woman that he “likes”, he’s usually on his “best behavior”.

So as I said, most men feel the desire to impress the woman they like, and in the process end up totally not being themselves. There’s your first hint. In fact the whole idea is basically this…

STOP TRYING.
TRYING TO IMPRESS A WOMAN DOESN’T IMPRESS HER.

So why is impressing women the wrong road? What’s wrong with trying to “impress” women, anyway?

To start with, EVERYTHING.
When you intentionally try to impress a lady, you send the following messages on a “subtle” level:
1) I don’t think you’ll like me for who I am, so I will try to “impress” you instead.

2) I’m not comfortable enough around women to just act normal.

3) I don’t have a lot of experience with attractive women.

4) I’m insecure.

Yeah, it sucks. But it’s the truth. Women can tell instantly when you’re “trying”. The conversation doesn’t feel “normal”, your body language is strange, and you can’t seem to have a regular conversation. Now I’ve just described how most guys act when they meet a girl they like for the 1^st time.

The bottom line is that trying to impress a woman usually has the opposite effect.
It not only makes you look like a nervous guy who can’t make normal conversation, it also bores the hell out of women. So stop trying.

So now you must be saying this is how one should not “un-impress” the lady. So what to do instead?

We’ll get to that some other day. . So keep reading…